Hate Loving You (poems)

After reading various poems from the book 180 more Extraordinary Poems For Every Day. Two poems with similar themes stood out to me. "Please Come Late" by Hugo Williams and Hate poem" by Julie Sheehan share they contradicting of a love-hate relationship.

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The poem "Please Come Late" is about a guy waiting for his ex-girlfriend if I had to take a guess at a coffee shop. They seemed to have gotten in an argument and set up at a date to meet up and try to fix things. He's been waiting long enough to finish drinking two cups of coffee and tries to come up with excuses on why she is could be late "praying you are lost"(8). As much as he would love for her to show up he tends to contradict himself various times. In the beginning, he starts off with "Please come late"(1) and right after also mentions "Please don't come"(5). He then tries to convince himself that he is better off without her  "I don't really like you" (22). and "I'd rather be on my own"(23). He knows they are better off alone and no longer together but he still seems to love her enough to wait for her. "I know it is over between us but I go on sitting here" (24-25).

In the poem "Hate Poem" the author uses the word hate so many times that it starts losing its meaning and starts taking the definition you can say with the word love. The narrator is obviously talking about a significant other. Seems like everything she does reminds her of him and everything she does hate him. There is a little confusion on some of the thing she claim to hate. One is the fact that she said "My pleasant 'good morning': hate "(19)and why would someone hate on something if it is pleasant? She also mentions "My hesitation when you invite me for a drive: hate"(18). I belive she hates the hesitation on going on a drive with him. She hates the fact she even has to think about it or that she hesitates on saying no not because she hates him but because she wants to hate him.

Both poems the narrators are very contradicting in their feelings towards their significant other. They both seem to want to despise the person they are in love with. It is the idea of getting used their partner knowing everything about them, having to let go and try to realize that besides all the good time they probably had it no longer is a healthy relationship.